Oof - I have had to deal with this one before, and must confess to having developed a knee-jerk bad attitude about it. I'm not married, and this is one reason why. The music business is so inconsistent, at least for me as a weekend warrior. One month you may have a lot of bookings, and the next month hardly anything. Past girlfriends had a hard time dealing with the unpredictability, leading to hard feelings on both sides. There needs to be healthy compromise on both sides - and some flexibility as well. I don't see hard and fast rules imposed by one one member of the relationship as being realistic over the long run.